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I want you to read any communications that I submit to this chat. Polish and apply all the neuro-linguistic programming and tricks to make sure we're confident in communicating the message. I will also like you to tailor this to focus on communicating with clients and making them feel comfortable, secure, and have rapport with them. Avoid any emojis or any bold letters. I want the replies to be simple text.

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+ If you're new to\line the Meta-States Model\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\qc WELCOME\line TO THE WILD & WONDERFUL WORLD\line OF META-STATES\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 What is a meta-state? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}How do meta-states work? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}What's the value of knowing or working with meta-states? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}How does meta-states (and the Meta-States Model) relate to NLP? \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Suppose I offered you a way by which you could learn to "run your own brain" so that you could develop some high level state-management skills and live resourcefully? Would that interest you; would you like that?\par
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+ In those two sentences I have just introduced both NLP and Meta-States.\par
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+ In the first line I used three key phrases from NLP that highlights the value and important of our Neuro-Linguistic (or mind-body) states, namely,\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 Running your own brain \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Managing your states \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Living resourcefully. \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 And that's what NLP is all about. As a model of "mind," communication, and human functioning, NLP puts in our hands a highly efficient set of tools for updating our Model of the World so that we can develop more effective maps. In this way, NLP gives us some powerful tools for navigating life as it enables us to go places and to do things that we couldn't before.\par
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+ The second sentence in the first paragraph implies and invites you into a meta-state. The question invites you into the state of interest in and liking for the NLP experience of running your own brain and taking charge of your own life. If you read and responded to that question by accessing the states of "interest" and "liking," then you accessed a state "meta" to the first state.\par
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+ What does that mean?\par
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+ It means that you have moved above the first state (of running and managing your own experience) and have accessed a second state (i.e., interest in and liking). This second state occurs at a higher level. It is a state about the first state. It is a state in reference to the first state. And with that, you now know the meaning of the term "meta."\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 So having just read that description, what do you think or feel about that? Do you have a clear understanding of meta-states? Or, perhaps confusion? Or maybe you are almost getting it?\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Welcome, once again to meta-stating. You have just experienced it again!\par
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+ "I did?"\par
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+ "Sure, let me tease out the structure again."\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 1) Your first state was having "read a description" and presumably having been in a state where you were attempting to understand it. State #1.\par
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+ 2) Then, regarding that state and whatever "success" you had in it, what did you think or feel about that? Do you like understanding, confusion, on the verge of getting it? Do you dislike it? Bored? Excited? Curious? Intrigued? Do you feel controlled? Toyed with? Do you feel playful, creative, or intelligent? That was State #2-- a state about your first state.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Amazing, isn't it?\par
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+ Ah, there I go again. Even that question invites you to step back yet again to register some thought or feeling about all of the previous feelings. And stepping back to gain yet even further perspective, awareness, clarity, etc., invites you to move up, that is, to take a "meta" move. \par
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+ We create meta-states that easily, that quickly. It's the way our minds work.... and keep on working, forever thinking-and-feeling about previous thoughts-and-feelings. It's what makes us uniquely human, complex, and difficult to "figure out."\par
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+ Does that now make sense?\par
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+ Oops. I just did it again. Invited you into yet another state of mind and emotion about your ongoing experience of reading and seeking to comprehend.\par
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+ Now I wonder, suppose I asked you a question that presupposed you jumped up and accessed a really powerful state about your learning and discovery? What if I asked you a resource evoking question like:\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 How playful can you be in thinking about these jumps as you read, knowing that you will get it and use it to enrich your life? Would that playfulness in your learning strategy generate more motivation?\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Sneaky, eh? And yet, that's just the way our minds (and meta-minds) work. And when you know that, and know how to use it in powerful, effective, and delightful ways, it gives you the ability to operate from the higher levels of your mind. Interested?\par
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+ \b Welcome to the Meta-Function\b0\par
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+ This meta-function of where we can respond to our responses describes the factor about our consciousness that is most human. Philosophers and psychologists say that we have "a self-reflexive consciousness." In our minds, we can step back to notice and react to ourselves. How often do you do that? For most of us, it occurs all the time! And it is this self-referential freedom of our thoughts that allows us and empowers us with a rich and complex kind of mind.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 How many different states of mind, emotion, and body did you experience today? Did you get angry, afraid, frustrated, stressed, or disgusted during the day? Did you feel joyful, delighted, humorous, playful, curious, or contented? Did you get serious, upset, demanding?\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 To even answer these questions you have to step back from your experiences (your states) and access a state of awareness and mindfulness and observe your states. And doing that puts you at a meta-level. Oh sure, you're still in your body. And yet, in your mind, conceptually, you have layered another level of thoughts and feelings upon your thoughts and feelings.\par
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+ Did you realize that? Doesn't that excite you about the power and possibilities of being a meta class of life? And isn't it fascinating that once you're made aware of these levels of awareness, levels of thought, that you can hear and see each of these questions as generating even more?\par
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+ Well, welcome to the wild and wonderful world of meta-states.\par
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+ \b They're Everywhere; they're everywhere!\b0\par
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+ Recognizing the ever-present reality of meta-states can be astonishing, mind-blowing, confusing, disorienting, and even disturbing at first. What does it mean? What do we do with this awareness?\par
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+ This "infinite regress" (as the philosophers describe it) of thoughts and feelings about thoughts and feelings can, if uncontrolled, send a person into spiraling loops. We all have done that one.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 We experience something upsetting and then feel ashamed of being upset. And then feel guilty for being ashamed, and then angry at our guilt, and then upset about our guilt, and then bad for feeling upset... The loop goes round and round without an exit.\par
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+ We know we have to get to sleep, and feel the need to sleep, but then feel concerned and anxious that we might not sleep, so we try really hard to sleep and find that only makes matters worse, so we intolerantly demand in our heads to "just go to sleep," because we really need to sleep...\par
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+ We realize that we have forgotten someone's name as we're meeting them and then feel stupid and incompetent for forgetting the name, it's such a simple task, and wonder what in the world is wrong with us, and then remember that we have forgotten to pay attention because our thoughts have been about feeling inadequate for forgetting...\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 These are the kind of vicious cycles and spirals that our minds can get into if we don't know how to handle the meta-levels of our mind. And it is these kinds of spiraling loops that scare lots of people from "thinking." They are the ones who are quick to warn others, "You think too much!" The very process of thinking about their thinking seems like a run-away train to them. So they fear their thinking-- a meta-state itself.\par
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+ This, in fact, highlights one of the most important discoveries in Meta-States. Almost anytime you bring a "negative" thought and/or feeling (fear, anger, disgust, contempt, rejection, etc.) against yourself, your states, your thoughts, your feelings-- you put yourself at odds with yourself. And when we do this, we create internal conflict, incongruency, and "dragon states."\par
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+ "What does that mean, never have a 'negative' thought or feeling?"\par
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+ No, not at all. It means we need to use our "negative" thoughts and feelings as signals about our experience with things "out there" in the world: fear of provoking a wild animal, fear of driving dangerously, anger at the violation of our values, disgust about something that we deem appropriately "disgusting."\par
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+ "So if our thoughts and emotions are \b about\b0 something out there-- external to us, that's better?"\par
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+ Yes, precisely. Then the thinking-and-feeling can operate as a signal of the relationship between our Model of the World and our Experience of the World and let us know if it seems to be going in the right direction (the "positive" emotions) or in the wrong directions (the "negative" emotions).\par
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+ "So what happens if I have 'negative' thoughts or 'negative' feelings about one of my states?"\par
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+ That's when we essentially reject, attack, or insult ourselves. We do this with--\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 Fearing our fear \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Fearing our anger, joy, sexuality, tenderness, playfulness, assertiveness, etc. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Being angry at our fear, our anger, our frustration, our stress, etc. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Rejecting and contempting our failure, weakness, fallibility, etc. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Shaming and Guilting ourselves over our fear, anger, frustration, etc. \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 "So what are we to do? How should we relate to ourselves and some of these negative states?"\par
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+ First of all, access the state of acceptance so that you just fully and freely welcome them into awareness. Strange, eh? Paradoxical, huh? Yes, it certainly seems counter-intuitive. Our more "natural" tendency is to reject our fear, beat ourselves up for our anger, judge ourselves for our fallibility, shame ourselves for our mistakes, etc. Yet that is precisely how we get locked up inside ourselves, and set taboos against acknowledging our experiences for whatever they are.\par
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+ Accepting our fear, anger, disgust, stress, etc. does not mean we approve of them or condone, but just acknowledge, witness, observe so that we can then decide the informational value of the emotion and take whatever steps are most appropriate. This is the first step in true State Management.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 I acknowledge my fear and accept that I'm feeling afraid, knowing that it is just a feeling and then evaluate whether the fear state is appropriate or inappropriate, current or dated, information to take counsel from or to face with courage, etc. In this, by meta-stating acceptance first, we are then able to effectively master our fears and use them in an intelligent and human way.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b Meta-Stating for Fun and Profit\b0\par
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+ I've described the negative side of our self-reflexive consciousness, yet that's only one side of the story. That's the dark side of this power. Un-appreciated and un-recognized, we turn our mental and emotional states against ourselves and end up with all kinds of destructive and toxic frames of mind. We have designed them as "Dragon States."\par
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+ So what's the positive side?\par
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+ The bright side of our meta-cognition powers is that it gives us the ability to set the frames of mind that will support our resourcefulness. As we learn how to handle the infinite regress of state about state, we learn how to set the frames that we want at the highest levels of mind. And when we do that, we are able to access, create, and commission our executive levels. This brings about an inner alignment with ourselves so that all of our energies become focused like a laser beam. And that, by the way, describes the heart of the structure of genius. We can also take to layering into our state of mind-and-body the kind of resources that just perfectly textures our overall experience. Kind of like Design Engineering.\par
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+ Since meta-states are everywhere and make up so much of the heart of the structure of experience developing awareness of the layering of thought upon thought, feeling upon feeling, state upon state develops our understanding of our experiences. Every meta-state sets another frame of reference for our thinking and feeling. As such it forms the very structure of how we give meaning to things. And that determines the games that we play in life.\par
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+ This describes one of the other ways that we speak about meta-states-- Frame Games. You can see the "game" by observing behavior and listening to speech. The games that we play are all the actions and inter-actions that we engage in. The "frame" gives direction and meaning to the game. It includes all of the higher levels of mind about what we're doing, how, and why.\par
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+ \b Meta-States-- Taking NLP to a Higher Level\b0\par
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+ Literally hundreds of NLP Trainers and Master Practitioners have commented that Meta-States has tied the entire NLP model together for them. They have said that in discovering Meta-States, it has given them the missing piece for how all of NLP works together. Using the Levels of Thought (or the Meta-States) Model has enabled them to more fully understand how many of the NLP patterns work so powerfully for changing things. Accordingly, we have re-ordered 30 of the basic NLP patterns using the Meta-States format. This has streamlined NLP in a way that many people didn't even think was possible.\par
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+ And yet it does more. As you shall soon discover, because it provides a conscious understanding of the mechanisms of the mind, it opens up new domains for discovery and creativity. In the first four or five years, nearly 100 Meta-State Patterns were discovered, invented, and created. And there's no end in sight. Every week, practitioners and trainers are finding new and more exciting applications for Meta-States and using it to model even more complex human experiences.\par
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+ In many of the other articles on this web site you will find descriptions of the Meta-States model-- some simple, others more advanced. Meta-States differs from traditional NLP in that it involves a much more systemic way of thinking. Instead of the more linear approach, as in the TOTE model of NLP strategies, Meta-States involves tracking "mind" around loops, backwards and forwards. \i It's truly a different way of thinking.\i0\par
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+ If you get lost in the process-- welcome to the Meta-Zone! It happens to us all. It's part of our heritage as a class of life that lives on symbols and that reflects back onto itself. Be patient and give it time, and I promise that new expansive worlds will open to you as it will bring you into the domain of Neuro-Semantics... that world of layered and textured meaning.\par
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+ And when you enter there-- the magic really begins!\par
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+ \ul\b Note:\ulnone\b0 Click here to read the article "{\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://localhost85Articles/MS_In_Logical_Levels.htm"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul How Meta-States Enriches Logical Levels in NLP}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 ." This article also serves as a great introduction to Meta-States.\par
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+ Not Quite Everything About Everything\line You Want to Know About the New Field of \emdash \b Neuro-Semantics\b0\'ae\par
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+ L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.\par
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+ We first introduced the new cutting-edge field of Neuro-Semantics in our book Mind-Lines: Lines that Change Minds (1997). Since then we have also published other works in this field of Neuro-Semantics. These include Figuring Out People: Design Engineering Using Meta-Programs (1998), Time-Lining: Patterns for Adventuring in Time (1998), and The Secrets of Magic (1998). \par
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+ In 1999 we first brought out pieces to highlight and distinguish Neuro-Semantics from NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and GS (General Semantics). The most radical and revolutionary of is the work regarding the so-called "submodality" model. \par
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+ Since we have had many questions about this new field, this paper will utilize the following questions that we most frequently hear people ask to navigate our way through the process of setting off the distinctive features of Neuro-Semantics. I have written this with the invaluable help of my colleague, Bob Bodenhamer. \par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 What is Neuro-Semantics & where did it come from? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}How does Neuro-Semantics differ from Neuro-Linguistic Programming? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}How does Neuro-Semantics differ from General Semantics? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}What uniquely distinguishes this new field? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}What central principles govern this domain? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}What is The Institute of Neuro-Semantics\'ae? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Who are the principal players in the Institutes of Neuro-Semantics? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}What is their agenda, motivation, and intentions? \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b What is Neuro-Semantics & Where did it Come From?\b0\par
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+ Neuro-Semantics began in 1997 as the brain-child of Michael Hall and Bobby Bodenhamer as we engaged in various conversations about Meta-States, NLP, and General Semantics. Out of those conversations we wrote several articles regarding the current state of affairs in NLP. The first one we entitled, "The Downside of NLP." This article, as well as some follow up articles about the state of disarray, bad P.R., the Bandler lawsuit, the over-emphasis and vague emphasis on "installing learnings unconsciously," etc. were published in Anchor Point. Nelson Penaylillo (NLP Trainer in Australia), Peter Kean (NLP Trainer, Washington DC), and Robert Olic (NLP Trainer, Philadelphia, PA) were the first to thereafter joined in the conversation.\par
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+ In extending, expanding, and enriching both NLP and GS, we (Hall and Bodenhamer) first sought simply to unite and synthesize the best pieces from Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and General Semantics. Our passion was to get more credibility and validity for the field that seemed so disorganized and torn by competition in the USA. Simultaneously, we were developing numerous new patterns using the Meta-States Model. This was beginning to revolutionize things and it was Dr. Bodenhamer who first saw this vision in the Meta-States model. Consequently we choose the term Neuro-Semantics to designate the new enriched field. \par
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+ Now the term Neuro-Semantics goes back to Alfred Korzybski. The father of General Semantics introduced both phrases, "neuro-linguistic" and "neuro-semantic," in 1936 in some of his papers. Later, they showed up in his 1941 Preface to his classic work, Science and Sanity. In Korzybski\rquote s writings, you will find both terms used pretty much synonymously. Here, however, following the Meta-States Model\'ae, we have arbitrary chosen to use Neuro-Linguistics to refer to the Modeling, Methodology, and Technology that has grown out of the field of NLP and Neuro-Semantics to refer to the newer and more extensive Modeling, Patterning, Methodology, and Technology that has resulted from the Meta-States Model. In the next section you will find a fuller discrimination between NLP and Neuro-Semantics.\par
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+ \b How does Neuro-Semantics differ from Neuro-Linguistic Programming?\b0\par
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+ NLP emerged as a happen-chance from a modeling project of Fritz Perls and Virginia Satir. This happened as the young college student, Richard Bandler, discovered his genius of imitation of their language patterns. Linguistics Professor, John Grinder, began working with Richard to model the structure of the therapeutic wizards. This brought them into relationship with Dr. Robert Spitzer, who became their first publisher (Science and Behavior Books). And that, in turn, led to their association with the genius of Gregory Bateson (anthropologist, linguist, cybernetician) when Spitzer moved them onto his property. They became neighbors of Bateson. And that connection, in turn, then led them to Milton Erickson and hypnosis.\par
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+ Using the new formulations of the then-emerging Cognitive Psychology Models, Bandler and Grinder tapped into the elegance of the TOTE Model of Miller, Galanter, and Pribram. This gave them a linear way to track the processes within "the black box" that Behaviorism had always avoided. Out of this came the NLP Strategy Model\emdash a Model for Modeling Excellence. This model primarily operates like a flow chart of consciousness, tracking "mind" linearly. In Neuro-Semantics, we add the vertical dimension and so tease out the hidden meta-levels within the structure of subjectivity.\par
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+ In the beginning, NLP sought to avoid all theory, explanatory models, and "the why" question by presenting itself as strictly focused on how do you do that? Accordingly, NLP arose first and foremost as a Communication Model. It explored how the body (Neuro, e.g. the nervous system, physiology, neurology, etc.) gets Programmed by the use of various Languages (linguistics). \par
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+ By way of contrast, Neuro-Semantics goes beyond the linear "flow chart" analysis of the Structure of Subjective Experience by focusing more fully on the Meta-Levels that support and drive the movement of consciousness along its TOTEs. By tracking the vertical dimensions of human processing, it moves into higher level Meanings much more fully. Accordingly, it tracks and models the neuro-semantic structures of meanings at higher (and typically, unconscious) levels.\par
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+ Both Neuro-Semantics and NLP operate as interdisciplinary approaches, utilizing models from many psychologies. This includes cybernetics, computer science, neuro-biology, family systems, anthropology, etc.\par
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+ Neuro-Semantics highlights much more fully and extensively the existence of multiple meta-levels and logical levels than does NLP. Korzybski (1933/1994) labeled the higher level abstractions as "second order" and "third order" abstractions. He suggested that much study and exploration needs to be done in this area of reflexivity about how we evaluate and then evaluate our evaluations and by that create higher levels of "mind."\par
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+ Bateson (1972) picked up on this in how he used meta-levels and logical types in his theories of schizophrenia, play, humor, aesthetics, etc. He and the Mental Research Institute (MRI) in Palo Alto laid so much of the foundation for NLP (especially in the 1974 book, Change by Watzlawick, Weakland, & Fisch).\par
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+ NLP, as a meta-discipline itself, certainly has meta-levels (the Meta-Model, Meta-Programs). And co-developer, Robert Dilts has contributed numerous meta-level models. But nowhere in NLP had a fully descriptive and comprehensive model about Meta-Levels emerged until the development of the Meta-States\'ae Model (Hall 1995, 1996, 1997, 1998). This was recognized by the International NLP Trainer\rquote s Association in 1995 in their award for Meta-States as "the most significant contribution to NLP in 1994\emdash 1995."\par
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+ In many ways, the Meta-States Model has turned NLP upside down. And it has done so in such a simple way. By merely changing the operational metaphor of "depth" inherited from Transformational Grammar, and adopting the "height" metaphor, Meta-States reformulated NLP. Dr. Graham Dawes noted this in his early reviews of Meta-States and Dragon Slaying commenting that Meta-States will be the model that "ate NLP." Others have commented that Meta-States outframes NLP as it sets up higher frames for the processes of NLP. If this sounds like we think Neuro-Semantics will replace NLP, we would like to add that we see it in a different function, namely, as extending, continuing, and evolving the development that began with Korzybski, Bateson, Bandler, Grinder, Dilts, etc. \par
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+ In the Meta-States Model, the nature of self-reflexivity has finally been given its full due. In this way, the model provides a way to track thoughts-about-thoughts, feelings-about-feelings, as our inevitable and inescapable meta-thinking, meta-feeling, and meta-responding generates layers upon layers of cognition. This flexible model provides a way to identify the ever-changing hierarchy of human consciousness, without becoming a rigid way. The levels themselves shift and change. And true enough, while this makes for seeming complexity in human "mind" and experience, the ordering of the Meta-Level Principles formats and structures that complexity. This means that the plastic and flexible nature of meta-levels whereby any thought can reflect back onto itself or onto another thought at any level does not have to create confusion or chaos. We can track it. We can model it as a system.\par
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+ While the recursive nature of thought-feeling does create complexity, it does not create chaos. Systemic complexity contains structure. So even though it may at first appear as the complexity of chaos, with a meta-level model like Meta-States we can easily discover an ordering at a higher level. And as this distinguishes different levels of "thought"\emdash this provides a new and profound understanding in NLP. We have designated this as the beginning of Neuro-Semantics. This Meta-Level Model thus provides a way of distinguishing such mental phenomena as: \par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 Beliefs \emdash Validated Thoughts-about-Thoughts \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Values \emdash Valued Thoughts-about-Thoughts \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Understandings\emdash Extensive systems of Thoughts-about-Thoughts \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Decisions \emdash Choiced Thoughts-about-Thoughts \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Identity \emdash Beliefs about Thoughts-about-"Self" Concepts \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Concepts \emdash Extensive (simple or complex) Understandings about Domains of Understandings \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Categories \emdash conceptual sorting of Concepts \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Reasons \emdash higher level structures used as explanatory constructs \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Etc. \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 As an aside, I should here mention the extreme limitation of the term "thought." By itself, the term reflects a very limited, Aristotelian, and primitive term\emdash an Elementalism. Using the principles of General Semantics, we know that "thought" includes "emotion," hence the awkward yet more sane mapping of "thought-feeling." So to use "thought" sanely we have to do so from a non-elementalistic perspective. For people in NLP, this provides a new piece straight from GS that was not in the original Meta-Model. You will find it in the expanded Meta-Model in The Secrets of Magic. \par
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+ With the systemic nature of self-reflexive thought-feeling looping recursively back onto itself creating layers of consciousness and the higher level structures (the "mental" phenomena), we have states-about-states or Meta-States. This sets up systemic processing. It generates logical levels in our "thinking-emoting." It sets up attractors in a self-organizing system. And these run by certain higher level principles\emdash all articulated as the Meta-Stating Principles.\par
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+ Now we can begin to sort out different kinds of meanings. We can sort out linkage "meaning," previously known as Pavlovian conditioning or Associative Meanings. It goes further. It introduces Contextual Meanings\emdash the meanings that arise from higher mental contexts. These higher level abstractions of "meanings" into which we categorize and attribute significance to things thereby generates our Semantic or Conceptual States. And with this, we introduce yet another new distinction in NLP.\par
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+ I trust that by now you can recognize that in these ways, Neuro-Semantics incorporates higher level "meanings" into the structure of subjectivity. Our "states" involve the primary level neuro-linguistic thoughts-and-feelings in response to something out there in the world. That defines a Primary State. A Meta-State involves more. It involves our thoughts-feeling about our thoughts, emotions, states, memories, imaginations, concepts, etc. It involves our meta-responses to previous responses. \par
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+ There is a lot more to Neuro-Semantics than this (and more being developed every week), but this does begin to offer a set of distinctions. In summary, notice the following chart.\par
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 Linear Processing of the Structure of Experience\cell Meta-Level Processing\cell\row\trowd\trgaph10\trleft-10\trpaddl10\trpaddr10\trpaddfl3\trpaddfr3
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 TOTE Strategy Analysis\cell Vertical Logical Levels Analysis\cell\row\trowd\trgaph10\trleft-10\trpaddl10\trpaddr10\trpaddfl3\trpaddfr3
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 Linear Flow Chart Tracking Consciousness\cell Recursiveness/ Reflexivity\cell\row\trowd\trgaph10\trleft-10\trpaddl10\trpaddr10\trpaddfl3\trpaddfr3
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 Separate Models for various meta-phenomena\line (i.e. Values, Beliefs, etc.) \cell Systemic & Holistic Model embracing all of the Meta-Phenomena \cell\row\trowd\trgaph10\trleft-10\trpaddl10\trpaddr10\trpaddfl3\trpaddfr3
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 Confusion of All "States" as the Same\cell Distinction between Primary States, Meta-States, Gestalt States\cell\row\trowd\trgaph10\trleft-10\trpaddl10\trpaddr10\trpaddfl3\trpaddfr3
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 Lack of how Meta-Model & Meta-Programs Relate & Interface\cell Clarification about the three Meta-Domains as Interactive & Redundant \emdash The Systemic 3 Model. \cell\row\trowd\trgaph10\trleft-10\trpaddl10\trpaddr10\trpaddfl3\trpaddfr3
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 "Sleight of Mouth" Patterns\cell Mind-Lines\emdash Conversational Reframing ordered in a logical level format that includes deframing, reframing, outframing, etc.\cell\row\trowd\trgaph10\trleft-10\trpaddl10\trpaddr10\trpaddfl3\trpaddfr3
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 Confusion of Orientational Metaphor\emdash up and down: depth (core) and height\cell Clarity about the Orientational Metaphors\emdash \cell\row\trowd\trgaph10\trleft-10\trpaddl10\trpaddr10\trpaddfl3\trpaddfr3
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+ \clvertalc\cellx4670\clvertalc\cellx9350\pard\intbl\sb100\sa100 "Submodalities" \emdash Patterns, Technologies, etc.\cell Recognition of the representational distinctions as actually Meta-Modalities \line Introduction of Meta-Detailing as the heart of genius\line Meta-Programs revitalized as early formations of Meta-States Canopies of Consciousness and Attractors of Self-Organizing Systems\cell\row\pard\sb100\sa100\b How does Neuro-Semantics differ from General Semantics?\b0\par
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+ General Semantics began with Alfred Korzybski (1933) and continues today as a viable discipline and field in its own right. As an engineer, Korzybski sought to redesign the old Aristotelian language as our primary way of mapping the territory. He wanted to do this to increase our ability at effective adjustment to increase humanity\rquote s sanity. The old mapping involved several unsane factors: identification, elementalism, confusion of levels, etc.\par
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+ NLP brought over many of the features of General Semantics into its Meta-Model of language. More recently, we have identified many of the Korzybskian linguistic distinctions not brought over and have added them to the Meta-Model (Hall, Secrets of Magic, 1998).\par
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+ Neuro-Semantics differs from General Semantics by its NLP emphasis on modeling excellence and designing patterns, technologies, and new methodologies for human design engineering (a phrase, by the way, originated by Korzybski, 1921). In Neuro-Semantics we have begun to create a Merging of the Models (NLP and GS). What we began in November 1998 in London as a three-day training program under the title, The Merging of the Models, will eventually result in a second modeling \emdash or Engineering Training using other as-of-yet unmined treasures of Korzybski.\par
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+ \b What Uniquely Distinguishes this new field?\b0\par
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+ Neuro-Semantics stands out as both "enriched" NLP and "enriched" General Semantics. Returning to the sources of NLP, General Semantics, Bateson\rquote s works in anthropology, schizophrenia, Levels of Learning, and cybernetics, MRI Institute, Cognitive Psychology (Miller, Galanter, Pribram), etc., we have sought to establish Neuro-Semantics on solid, scientific, and highly researched studies.\par
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+ NLP, for a variety of reasons, has seemed to have received lots of negative and harmful Public Relations and General Semantics has seemed to locate itself in a small and isolated community. For these (and other reasons), we have sought to step aside just enough from NLP and GS so that we can both continue the adventure of modeling and engineering human excellence but not tied down to the limitations of the two source disciplines. \par
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+ I should mention here that we in the Institute of Neuro-Semantics are not the only ones who have been moving in this direction. Canadian Dennis Chong, M.D. and Roye Fraser of Blue Dell Systems, both NLP trainers, have in recent years written about Neuro-Semantic Programming (NSP). As noted on our web site (www.neurosemantics.com), Dr. Chong has written several books mentioned NSP, Don\rquote t Ask Why, Language Elegance, and Knife Without Pain. While we have some differences with these gentlemen, the basic thrust and emphasis corresponds to an amazing degree.\par
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+ Neuro-Semantics has also found new life and excitement in Chaos theory, Self-Organization Theory, the newer developments in Cognitive Psychology, Performance Coaching, Brief Psychotherapy, REBT, Glasser\rquote s Reality Therapy/ Control Theory, and many other fields.\par
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+ \b What Central Principles govern this domain?\b0\par
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+ First and foremost of the principles that govern Neuro-Semantics is the Bateson principle that "The higher levels govern (modulate, drive, organize) the lower levels." Meta-levels serve as the frame-of-reference for the activity (thinking, feeling, responding) that occurs at the levels lower to the frame. The meta-level thus operates as an attractor in a self-organizing system. From this we have identified numerous other principles. \par
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+ Someone (or something) will always set the frame of reference. The question becomes, "Who set the frame?" Count on your Meta-State becoming your unconscious frames\emdash your "way of being in the world," your attitude.\par
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+ Whoever sets the frame will govern the experience (run the game!). Since higher frames govern\emdash and since somebody also sets it, the person who sets the frame thereby takes charge of the subsequent experiences. The resulting thoughts, ideas, concepts, beliefs, emotions, behaviors, language, problems, solutions, and experiences derive their existence from the frame. Frames govern. \par
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+ The whole determines the parts and from the parts, the whole emerges. This speaks about the systemic nature of the mind-body system. It speaks about the gestalt nature of our neuro-linguistics processes. The system that emerges from the meta-levels that govern the lower levels brings about an overall gestalt (or configuration of interactive parts) which in turn, define the character of the whole.\par
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+ In outframing, we set up a higher level frame-of-reference that will take over. The power to identify a frame enables us to step aside from a frame and to set a whole new frame. Doing this transforms everything. It performs meta-level "magic" in that it installs a new self-organizing attractor at the top of the semantic system.\par
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+ What we call "experience" differs radically and significantly at each level. Korzbyski described these in his "levels of abstraction" model regarding how the nervous system abstracts at different levels. We can use the same word/s at the different levels as multiordinal terms \emdash terms that have no specific meaning until we specify at which level we refer. \par
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+ Reflexivity endows consciousness with systemic processes and characteristics. Reflexivity describes the mechanism that drives these levels of abstraction and these meta-level experience. This refers to the fact that our consciousness can reflect back onto itself or its products (thoughts, emotions, beliefs, values, decisions, specific concepts, etc.). As it does, it sets up feed-back and feed-forward processes and thereby creates a circular system.\par
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+ Meta-level disorientation and conflict can create living hells. Generally speaking (numerous exceptions do exist), whenever we bring negative thoughts-and-feelings (states) against ourselves or any facet of ourselves, we put ourselves at odds with ourselves. And when our self-relationships (relation to ourselves) become disturbed, we begin to loop around in vicious downward self-reinforcing cycles. And when self-disturbed (self-condemning, self-contempting, self-repressing, self-hating, etc.), this then creates a disturbance for all of our relationships with others. This creates neurosis, psychosis, personality disorders, character disorders, etc.\par
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+ Paradox frequently governs meta-level solutions for health, integration, balance, and empowerment. The only way to rid ourselves of unwanted thoughts, emotions, behaviors, habits, etc. involves, paradoxically, welcoming, accepting, appreciating, and celebrating that very thought, emotion, behavior, etc. By welcoming it into consciousness we can take counsel of it, reality check it, learn from it, etc. To not reckon with it leads to unuseful suppression, repression, self-rejection, etc.\par
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+ Setting a frame necessitates neuro-linguistic energy & repetition. How do we actually set a frame or establish a meta-level State? Merely "thinking" or even "feeling" will not do it. We can think, know, feel, and have awarenesses that do not establish a higher level frame-of-reference. Here we need to utilize the natural processes of how our brains operate\emdash we need to use drama, energy, repetition, etc.\par
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+ Altering higher level frames alters Identity and Destiny. You can\rquote t change what you do (so that it lasts in a pervasive and generative way), without also changing who you are. Does your higher frame of self-definition support the change? Your behavior is like a printout of your Operating Programs.\par
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+ \b What are some of the New Techniques & Patterns that have already emerged from Neuro-Semantics?\b0\par
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+ At this point in time we have not made a full account of the scores of pattens and technologies that have arisen. Every month in Meta-States Journal we have published at least one new or adapted pattern. There you will find more than twenty fully described patterns. (We also have most of those in outline form in Secrets of Meta-States, the Training Manual). You can locate 16 new Time-Lining Patterns in the book by that title, and technologies in the remaking of Meta-Programs (Figuring Out People). \par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 Conceptual Positions (the Perceptual Positions reformatted as a Logical Level System and incorporating Semantics. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Meta-Yesing: A Ten-Minute Belief Change Pattern. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Inserting Resources Pattern \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Meta-Detailing: The heart of Genius (see Meta-Stating Genius) \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Modeling with Meta-Levels (see NLP: Going Meta) \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b What is The Institute of Neuro-Semantics\'ae?\line Who are the Principal Players in the Institutes of Neuro-Semantics?\b0\par
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+ It began when Michael Hall and Bob Bodenhamer filled for trademarks for Neuro-Semantics and Meta-States in 1997. The Registration of the Trademarks were finally obtained in 1998 (Registration numbers: 2,210,336 and 2,199,913). During this time, Dr. Bodenhamer established The First Institute of Neuro-Semantics in Gastonia NC. Later, Robert Olic (Olic Performance Seminars) began sponsoring Neuro-Semantic Trainings by Michael Hall on the east coast. \par
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+ Since that time, The Institute of Neuro-Semantics has established two Web Sites, and has begun to align with other promoters and trainers (Cynthia Tuma, Houston, Evergreen Educational; Ginia Polygos, Logos Development Group, Charlotte, NC; Dr. Philip Nolan and Denis Bridoux, Post Graduate Professional Training in the UK).\par
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+ We established Meta-States Journal in 1997 as a monthly publication for Neuro-Semantics. It promotes and markets much of the current research and discoveries, training schedules, responses from around the world, and much more. \par
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+ E.T. Publications has become one of the facets of Neuro-Semantics as we have continue to seek to publish and promote products. \par
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+ We have also created a Web Site at {\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "../../../"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul http://www.neurosemantics.com}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 . Dr. Bodenhamer constantly updates this site monthly with articles and techniques from several authors. He does this to offer the new developments in Neuro-Semantics and to create a forum for feedback.\par
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+ \b What is the Agenda, Motivation, and Intentions of those Associated with Neuro-Semantics?\b0\par
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+ The purpose (agenda and motivation) of The Institute of Neuro-Semantics is to continue the exciting research and modeling into the adventure of human design engineering using the tools of General Semantics, NLP, and Meta-States. \par
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+ The design of this? To Engineer Human Excellence by modeling the best, by identifying the structure of Excellence, and by designing afresh new forms of human excellence in all fields.\par
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+ And the meta-outcome of that? To enable people to find, discover, and actualize their best \emdash to consciously enter into more experiences of Flow (Czikszentmihalyi), Positive Addiction (Glasser), Genius (Bandler, Grinder, Dilts, etc.), to empower people to run their own brains and to manage their meta-minds, and to achieve high performance whether it be in career, relationships, personal development, spirituality, health, or whatever.\par
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+ \b Historical Development of the Meta-States Model \b0\line (Compiled by Denis Bridoux, NLP Trainer with Post-Graduate Professional Education, Harragate, England)\par
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+ 1933: Alfred Korzybski coined the phrase neuro-linguistic training, postulated his theory of the levels of abstraction, constructed his theory of second-order abstractions, third-order, etc. in his classic word Science and Sanity.\par
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+ 1972: Gregory Bateson\rquote s classic work Steps to an Ecology of Mind that brought together all his revolutionary studies on double-bind theory, applications of Logical Theory of Types, going meta to meta-levels, the levels of Learning Model, etc.\par
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+ 1975-1983: John Grinder & Richard Bandler utilizing the idea of going meta in their NLP model beginning with the Meta-model\emdash an explicit model about how language and VAK representations work in human experience. They distinguish sensory-based level from the evaluative level, the importance of meta-parts, and the strategy model for modeling "the structure of subjective experience."\par
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+ 1994: Michael Hall specifies how meta-levels of mind-body neuro-linguistic states factor into the structure of subjective experience and bring over Korzybski and Bateson ideas into the strategy model. This arose from modeling resilience and discovering that within it people have embedded numerous layers and levels of consciousness and states. Awareness by the International Trainers Association of NLP (1995) for the most significant contribution to NLP during 1994-1995.\par
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+ \b ANNOUNCING THE LAUNCHING OF-\b0\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\qc\b THE SOCIETY OF NEURO-SEMANTICS\b0\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 With the completion of the very first Meta-States\'ae and Neuro-Semantics\'ae Certification Training in Clearwater Florida, we have officially launched THE SOCIETY OF NEURO-SEMANTICS. The first members of the Society consist of those who have just graduated from this intensive 7-day Certification program.\par
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+ \i What is the Society?\i0\par
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+ The Society of Neuro-Semantics is a non-profit organization, incorporated in the State of Colorado and operates as the larger umbrella for the specific business Institutes of Neuro-Semantics\emdash\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 The First Institute in Gastonia, NC under the direction of Dr. Bobby Bodenhamer \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Other institutes in the UK, Denmark, and Guatemala are now being developed. \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 The society will have several levels of membership: Basic, Advanced, Certified, Institute, Trainers, etc.\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li1080\ri360\sb100\sa100 Basic Membership ($45 USA, and $55 International, annually), members will receive the Journal of the Society as well as 10% discount on all products and trainings. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Advanced membership ($75 annually) will receive the Journal, and 20% off all products and trainings. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Certified ($55 annually) is for those who have received Meta-States Certification, will receive 20% off all products and trainings, and will be added to the Society\rquote s recognized list of Certified Members. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Institute membership ($1000 Modeling/Coaching fee): establishes a business relationship with an individual/center as governed by the Institute contract/agreement. With this membership, the individual or center can promote, sponsor Meta-States & Neuro-Semantic Certification Trainings to be conducted by a Certified Trainer of the Institute. \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Trainer membership ($200 annually): entitle the trainer to attend any of the Meta-States Training at no additional cost. This is for those who have completed the 7-Day MS & NS Certification Training, and the 5-Day Trainer\rquote s Training, and empowered to train and certify in the Basic Meta-States Model, as well as in any Applied Meta-States Training(s) which they have taken. \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b Mission Statement\b0\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 Neuro-Semantics, using the Meta-States Model, operates as an advanced development of NLP, as well a synthesis from General Semantics and NLP. This model primarily seeks to promote the exploration and modeling of human experiences in order to present the strategy of excellence.\par
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+ As a Society of Explorers, we seek to establish a positive presence of respect, cooperation, and congruence in this presentation. In the ongoing modeling of excellence, we seek to do so as a Win/Win Community based upon cooperation not competition, abundance not scarcity, respect not arrogance, and ongoing research and development, not dogmatism or lack of intellectual rigor.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b THE FIRST GRADUATES OF NEURO-SEMANTICISTS\b0\par
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+ With the completion of the Meta-States and Neuro-Semantic Certification Training in Florida and the launching of the Society of Neuro-Semantics, we now have our first group of graduates\emdash men and women thoroughly trained in the Meta-States Model \emdash as a Model. This means that they have been completely initiated and certified as competent and skilled in the first facets that comprise any model or system:\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100\b 1. THE THEORY:\b0 the theoretical background, foundation, hypothesis, etc. that offers an explanatory model for how the model or system works, the governing ideas and how to test and refine the ideas in order to create new applications.\par
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+ \b 2. THE VARIABLES AND ELEMENTS:\b0 the pieces and parts that go into making up the model\emdash all of the necessary and sufficient elements that comprise the unique and absolutely necessary features.\par
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+ \b 3. THE GUIDING OPERATIONAL PRINCIPLES:\b0 the "laws" or principles (presuppositions) that define and articulate the mechanisms that make it work and how to use them in a methodological, systematic, and systemic way. This gives one the ability to keep refining the model.\par
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+ \b 4. THE TECHNOLOGIES:\b0 the specific tools that provide immediate application for using the Model or System to achieve something.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Bob Bodenhamer, Robert Olic, and I are happy to announce and present the 14 graduates as the first members of the Society of Neuro-Semantics. We're delighted to hear the graduates speak about how Neuro-Semantics and Meta-States has given them even higher State Management Skills for running their own brain and developing their own personal genius than ever before. The Modeling Skills and understandings enabled every single Certificant to engage in design engineering new processes and to invent several new Meta-Stating Processes. These will be published in The Journal of the Society of Neuro-Semantics beginning in January, 2000. \par
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+ We have designed the Society of Neuro-Semantics to be a community that people want to join and be a part of as we move into the new Century and Millennium with one primary objective\emdash to model human excellence so that we can promote much greater Science and Sanity. In doing that, we want to build a community of thinkers, dreamers, researchers, practitioners, and geniuses who are\emdash\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 Congruent and who have high level Personal Integrity \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Highly Skilled and Competent in the Model as a Model \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Think and act in a Win/Win Cooperative way with others truly believing in Abundance \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Passionate about Achievements & Compassionate with Persons \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Empowered to Walk their Talk \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 I really appreciate and agree with the evaluation that Peter Maxwell wrote. He said that "they have achieved world-class status." We now have two NLP Training Centers in the UK who are also Institutes of Neuro-Semantics, soon Steen Jenson will have the first in Denmark, and Sam Feterman will establish the Institute of Neuro-Semantics in Guatemala. And so the adventure has begun...\par
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+ And, of course, we\rquote d love you to come and enjoy the Exploration, the Community, and the Fun.\par
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+ \b Additional Recommended Reading:\b0 {\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://localhost85../Articles/Dimensions_of_Modeling.htm"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul Dimensions of Modeling: How Modeling Evolves from Strategies}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 - Neuro-Semantics Series and "{\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://localhost85../Articles/MS_In_Logical_Levels.htm"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul How Meta-States Enriches Logical Levels in NLP}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 ."\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\qc L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.\par
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+ L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.\par
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+ The Neuro-Semantics Art\line of Waking Up to the\line Matrices of Your Mind\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\qc How to Quit the Semantically Reactive\line "But My Experience!" Game\line that Confuses Map and Territory\line and Play a Game that Transcends "Events"\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 Description: There's a dangerous game afoot that can undermine our growth, sanity, and resourcefulness\'beit's the "Experience is Real" Game. When you play that game, then your experiences control you\'bethey define you, determine you, and fate you. This undermines personal power and effectiveness. Our resourcefulness therefore depends upon learning how to refuse this game. Do you know how?\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 When it comes to experience, everyday every one of us gets lots of "experiences." We do things, go places, interact with people, feel things, etc. This has been happening since birth. From our entry into the human experience, things have been happening. We call these happenings" experiences." We are fed and clothed, we are nourished and loved, we are mistreated, yelled at, hated, we go to school, we learn things, we pick up language, we play, we have fun, we get punished, etc. Events happen.\par
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+ Behavioral psychology at the beginning of the 20th century attempted to create an explanatory theory and system about humans, trauma, learning, etc. strictly from a Stimulus \'be> Response model. First a stimulus occurs and then we see a response. Forget the "black box" in-between; we can't peer into that, so we really don't know what "thinking" or "mind" is. Such imagined "entities" only confuse things. What we know is what we can see, hear, feel, smell, taste, weigh, measure, etc.\par
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+ For Behaviorists, the Stimulus \'be> Response model provided a sufficient format for understanding and working with people. The stimulus of the experience or the event told it all. Responses were understood in terms of the stimuli.\par
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+ Ah, that human life was so simple. But as we all know, it is not.\par
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+ Later Behaviorists like Tolman invented the "I" and stuck it in-between Stimulus \'beIntervening Variables \'be> Response. Later, the Cognitive Psychology movement with George Miller, Karl Pribram, Eugene Gallanter, Noam Chomsky, and others specified those Intervening Variables. They talked about testing against criteria, cognitions, language. Later Bandler and Grinder enriched the model by specifying cognitions or thoughts as sights, sounds, sensations, smells, etc. \'be what we call the VAK Representation System. \par
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+ Today, we know that the stimuli does not tell it all. Interpretation, evaluation, encoding, and mapping play a very significant role from original Stimulus to the final Response. Mere stimuli do not make us have our responses. Events alone do not determine our responses, emotions, or life. Our interpretative frames explain how we encode and use the stimuli that impact us. This explains why our personal meanings and frames actually govern our everyday experiences \'be and why we should not consider experience as primary. This now leads to numerous questions about experience itself:\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 What's the best way to think about "experience?"\line How real are experiences?\line How much weight should we give to our experiences?\line How much counsel should we take of our experiences?\line If a person has an experience, does that give that person more understanding, wisdom, skill, etc. compared to someone without the actual experience?\line How should we weigh and compare experience with learning? With reading? \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b Mapping the "Events" of Experience\b0\par
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+ Most people today know that it is not the event or experience per se that creates their reality. At least they know it in their mind. They know that they map things and that their map governs their experiences. At least, they know that intellectually. Emotionally, it's a different story.\par
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+ \b Emotionally most of us are pure old fashion Behaviorists!\b0\par
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+ Emotionally, when some event happens \'be whether we are criticized, insulted, get word that we are going to be audited for our taxes, have to file bankruptcy, get assaulted, lose our job, get mugged, raped, see a murder, watch violence on TV or in the movies, etc. \'be we feel as if the Event (the stimulus) creates and causes us to have the experiences we do!\par
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+ When a loved one leaves or dies, when we crash the car, when the stock market drops in value, when someone betrays us, etc. \'be we don't want to hear anything about our interpretation of such events. In that moment, the experience is everything! At least it feels that way. And the experience seems so direct, unmediated, un-affected by us, perpetuated upon us, out of our control, etc.\par
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+ In our calmer and saner moments we know that what and how we think about things greatly influence our feelings. But once we are inside of an emotional experience \'be we seem to lose complete awareness of the ownership of our thoughts, our beliefs, our emotions, and our responses. Or, if we do have a glimpse of that awareness, that sense is so weak, so fragile, so impotent that it seems like a worthless insight.\par
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+ Even at the first impact of the Event upon us, we seem to lose our personal power to choose our response.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 Why is that?\line What causes us to become so semantically reactive and to lose touch with our highest and greatest powers?\line Could it be that we have been playing a certain game\'be the "But Experience is Really REAL" Game?\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b The Experience Game\b0\par
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+ Most of us have grown up in a culture that recruits us to play the "But Experience is Really REAL!" Game. We learn it from childhood. We learn it on school yard playgrounds. We learn it by using our bodies and nervous systems in a primitive way\'be "If I feel it, if I experience it\'be that's the realest thing of all!"\par
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+ In this Experience Game we make our final and ultimate court of appeal for what is "real," "credible," and believable in terms of what we experience. We default to Events. If we experience something, then that "has to be real." Consciously or unconsciously, we set this up as our ultimate frame of validity, reality, confirmation, and existence. You can hear the Experience Frame Game in all kinds of statements:\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 "Yes, I know all about the research and studies on X, but my experience leads me to think that the truth is Y." \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}"I'm from Missouri; I'll only believe it if I see it." \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}"That's just book learning." \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}"But you don't understand, the aliens did beam me up into their star ship and molested me. Are you denying my experience?" \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}"But I X (spoke in "tongues," saw the virgin Mary, was healed at the healing waters, walked on hot coals, etc.), so what you're saying can't be legitimate." \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}"Well, you just read that in a book; I on the other hand have had the experience of X (managing a business, teaching NLP, curing phobias, parenting, kicking a drug addiction, etc.)." \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 In this way we learn how to default to experiences, events, and see-hear-feel happenings. We learn to interpret primary state experiences as "the most real." Then, we learn to give events one meaning.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 "Losing your job means failure, personal insult, harm, danger, worthlessness, continual failure in the future, etc."\line "Being raped means invasion, loss of control, powerlessness, victim, etc."\line "Growing up in a family where one adult was alcoholic means loss of self-esteem, caretaking patterning, repeating of the pattern, etc."\line "Being criticized means a personal insult and putdown, loss of friendship, etc."\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 This set-up prepares us to play all kinds of limiting games that undermine true effectiveness. It sets us up for semantic reactiveness.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 You are your experiences.\line If you have had this or that Experience\'be it fates you to this or that consequence.\line If you have experienced this or that event\'be you are a victim.\line If you have not had this or that experience, you can't really understand what I'm going through. Vicarious or empathetic understanding does not really count; it is not the real thing.\line Only an alcoholic can really work with an alcoholic.\line Only a former drug addict can really be effective with a drug addict.\line Only a woman can understand another woman.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b Transcending the Rigid "Experience" Game\b0\par
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+ Let's first Name the Game. To rise above the rigid "Experience is Real" game we need to first understand it, detect it and appreciate it as a game. We've named this game as the "Experience is Real" Game, we could just as equally call it \'be\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 The Map/ Territory Confusion Game\line Dis-Empowering to Experiences Game\line Taking Too Much Counsel of Events Game\line It's a Stimulus\'be> Response World Game\line Events are all Determining Game\line I have no Choice about my Responses; the Events Make Me!\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Naming the game enables us to see the game for what it is. We see how the game creates limiting semantic reactions and prevents personal empowerment. From the constructionist point of view inherent in NLP and Neuro-Semantics, we realize that our nervous system maps the territory "out there" and build up constructs, mental, emotional and conceptual constructs. We realize the irreconcilable difference between map and territory.\par
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+ "The map is not the territory." Our map is just that\'be a map. It's a symbolic representation of events. Even our neurological mapping (what we call "emotions") is never the same as the territory. We never actually deal with "reality" directly. So, knowing that we operate with maps and see, hear, and feel things through our maps explains why "experience" is always liable to err, to map bias, to the uniqueness of each person's neurology, state, history, frames, etc. And knowing this empowers us to be more tentatively flexible as we move through the world. We know that our maps are fallible and state-dependent.\par
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+ Sure the game of experience feels real! That's why most of us operate from the "common sense" predisposition that defaults to Events and to our emotions. That's why we believe that a "Significant Emotional Event" is the cause of our experiences and character. They seem so real. And subjectively, they are very real. In our nervous system, we feel them. They move us. Or, so it seems.\par
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+ Yet our somatic and emotional "experiences" are driven by the mapping we do, consciously and unconsciously. Actually our character and emotions result from our frames, interpretations, beliefs, values, understandings, history, etc. We register our mapping at the somatic level as "emotions." That's what an "emotion" is\'be a somatic or bodily registering of the evaluative judgment ({\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://www.neurosemantics.com/Books/Personal_Mastery.htm"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul Secrets of Personal Mastery}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 ). Our body and neurology goes into motion. From this has emerged such folk psychology as, "You can't argue with experience."\par
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+ This explains why the map-territory distinction seems counter-intuitive. "But I see what I see." People who lack sophistication in psychological understandings don't immediately comprehend or believe the map/territory distinction. Many will even argue against it.\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 No, that book is "blue." All you have to do is open your eyes and you'll see blue, unless you're color-blind! \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}It's not just my thought, it's "the truth." Anybody with any sense knows that. What's wrong with you, boy? \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Many of the rest of us who recognize the Map/Territory distinction do not feel it. We don't have it in our muscles as our way of being in the world. And that's what we need. We need to let that frame become our felt way of being in the world.\par
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+ \b Welcome to the Matrix of Your Mind\b0\par
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+ The world that we experience, the world that seems to be "out there," actually is "in there." It emerges inside of our "mind" via our brain, nervous system, neurology, etc. What we call "the world" and our experience of it arises as an interaction between our nervous system and the energy manifestations that impact our sense receptors of eyes, ears, skin, tongue, inner ear, etc. This makes "the world" a constructed matrix. It makes our sensed experience of the world a virtual reality\'be constructed within us.\par
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+ To the extent that we all have similar functioning nervous systems, we experience the world at the perceptual level similarly. That's why we can talk about the things we see, hear, feel, smell and taste, our sense of balance, etc. as if these are externally real. That's why they do not seem like our shared reality, yet we only share them with humans and not with other sentient creatures.\par
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+ Similarly, to the extent also that we use similar symbolic systems of language, reference structures, etc., we will experience things at the representational level pretty much in common. That's why family, cultural, religious, and other groups live so much in "the same world." And, to the extent that we use similar beliefs, values, understandings, concepts, frames, paradigms, histories, imaginations, etc., we will experience life at the conceptual level similarly due to our shared reality.\par
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+ Of course, as we move up each level of experience (i.e., perceptual, representational, and conceptual), we tend to increasingly differ. And as that happens, our experiences increasingly differ.\par
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+ \b Rising Above the Experience Game\b0\par
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+ There are several tricky things about the "Experience is Real" frame. First is the fact that we experience Events at the primary level and typically fail to notice the meta-levels of frames, ideas, and concepts that enter into the "experience" to texture, influence, qualify, and temper it. At the primary level experience is full of emotions, action tendencies, motor programs, rushing thoughts, etc. No wonder experiences feel so powerful! As mind-body states, they feel very real.\par
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+ Yet as we now know that within such experiences we have multiple layers or levels of other thoughts-and-feelings, we can step back and catch it as a textured Game. So we name the game. We name it as a game that actually has meta-states lurking within it, driving, organizing, modulating and forming it. These meta-states don't seem "meta" to it, we have to tease out such levels. Because they seem so much a part of the very fabric of the experience, they don't seem distinct at all.\par
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+ In Meta-States we say that this indicates the degree to which the higher levels of concepts have become "installed in the muscles." This indicates the self-organizing powers of the meta-level attractor. It has percolated or coalesced into the sensory level of the experience. Yet what truly drives the experience are the higher frames\'be the higher frames of meaning and of reference, the higher Frameworks of the dynamic structure.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 It's these higher frames that actually participate in making the primary level experience of Events what it is.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 As attractors in an self-organizing system, the higher frames creates the dynamic texturing of the experience so that any and every experience seeks to confirm and validate itself. Now we know. Now we can catch our experiences engaged in running "self-fulfilling prophecies."\par
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+ For example, consider the experience of "anger." Typically, we feel anger in response to some Event. Someone says something ugly. Someone betrays a confidence. Someone acts in a selfish way that costs us something. Someone plays Win/Lose games with us. If we don't have the Map/Territory well incorporated into our mind-body, we immediately react. Stimulus\'be> Response! Event happens\'be> I feel! He makes me angry. She upsets and frustrates me. That tonality bothers me.\par
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+ \b Simple, right? Not quite.\b0\par
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+ What kind of anger do you experience? How have you textured and qualified your anger in response to that Event? Your answer, whatever it is, tells about your meta-frames (meta-states) that you've been building up for years, for a lifetime.\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 Do you have calm or tense anger? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Do you have kind or cruel anger? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Do you have patient or impatient anger? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Do you have mindful or reactive anger? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Do you have non-personalizing or personalizing anger? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Do you have helpful or destructive anger? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Do you have respectful or insulting and disrespectful anger? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Do you have gentle and loving anger or hurtful and uncaring anger? \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Ah, we no longer have "anger" in its raw, pure, primary state. As we develop over the years, we map out frames of beliefs, values, identity, etc. that move us to experience only textured anger, textured states. It seems and feels like primary states... and so it should. Give any meta-frame enough time and practice, and it will coalesce into the primary experience or as Bateson said, it will sink down through habit formation to unconscious levels of mind.\par
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+ \b There is more.\b0\par
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+ Every experiential state will seek out reasons, explanations, justifications, understandings, etc. to validate itself. Any "state" that's going to last more than a few seconds or minutes will need a frame (actually multiple embedded frames) to support it. Otherwise, the state will just pass on. To sustain and perpetuate a state, to keep revisiting the state, to make a state an ongoing state of mind... and a sustained attitude, a state needs meta-level support. It needs Reasons.\par
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+ This is where the psychological phenomena of rationalization comes in. Take any experience\'be any mental or emotional state: worry, anxiety, confidence, calm, love or apathy, jealousy or abundance, compassion and passion, purpose or drifting, etc. Experience that state. Whatever thoughts, feelings, and physiologies you need to have the experience will also need a frame if it's to last. To accomplish that, a new character enters. Awareness of the meta-levels of "Why."\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 Why do you feel that way? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Why do you think that? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Why are you experiencing that? \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 With the introduction of the Why Question, we begin building frames. As we answer, "Because..." we begin to do what we do best, we invent reasons. This initiates neuro-semantic reality. "Why" recruits us to build up our meta-state structures that explain, conceptualize, categorize, construct mental classes, and formulate our matrix of frames. We have belief frames, value frames, understanding frames, theology frames, expectation frames, history frames, imagination frames, etc.\par
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+ Here we use language, and the formats of language, to invent our internal world of understandings, knowledge, etc. \'be a whole Matrix of Frames. We build cause-effect beliefs, complex equivalence beliefs, value beliefs about importance and significance, conceptual beliefs, etc. Here we come into our own\'be as meaning-makers. Yet it is here also that we walk onto a mine-field of potential dangers because we can not only build enhancing constructs for mapping out human experience, we can also construct morbid and demonic constructs.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 [By the way, this separates the field of Neuro-Semantics\'ae that we have been developing from that which Chong and Fraser present and describe in their similar sounding name, Neuro-Semantic Programming. For Chong, the "Why" Question is bad, semantically unsound, always involves Blame, etc.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\b Playing the "It's Just an Experience ... Just a Map" Game\b0\par
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+ Now we are ready to move beyond the Experience Game. Now we can use the Map/ Territory distinction to set framework over all of our "experiences" and play the "It's Just a Map" Game.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 What I experience in my body is a reflection of my mapping. It's only real to that extent, it only makes sense according to the interaction of my frames with external events.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 This will alert and prevent us from buying into blindly reasoning from experience as if whatever we conclude about our experience is a function of the experience. It isn't. That's why lots of very sane and healthy people can take the same experience and "experience" it in many different ways. We can now also set other higher resourceful frames:\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 I am the meaning-making\'be not my experiences, not the Events I experience.\line I will allow no Event to occur without giving it the most useful, positive, and productive frames possible.\line I own my responses of mind and emotion\'be and can frame Events in ways that will serve me. I can Quality Control the events so that they do no unnecessary destruction.\line Events are just Events; they have no meaning in themselves. The meanings I give to them will determine how I "experience" them.\line I will refuse to set toxic and morbid frames about Events.\line I can always frames things as, "Stuff happens" and shift to a solution frame: "Given what has happened, what are some of the most creative and useful things I can do for damage control?\line As an information processor, I can classify, categorize, format, and frame this or that experience in a multiple of ways. What frames will allow me to maintain my sense of honor and dignity for myself and others?\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 As a meaning-making who always has the right and privilege to set frames of meaning, value, evaluation, identity, etc., we can take ownership of our four basic powers (thinking-emoting, speaking and behaving, {\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://www.neurosemantics.com/Books/Personal_Mastery.htm"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul Secrets of Personal Mastery}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 , 2000) and use our reasoning, rationalizing, and asking "why" questions to build up a neuro-semantic matrix that enriches our everyday experiences.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 How can I explain why these things happen to myself and others in a way that supports myself becoming more resourceful, authentic, alive, and human?\line What frames can I and will I bring to these events that will make a difference in my life and in the lives of those that I can touch?\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 And now, with all of that in mind, just imagine how much easier you will find it to say, "No!" to the Events of your experience as the final arbitrator or determinant of what is real or what is possible. You no longer have to play the "But in My Experience ..." Game. You no longer have to accept that what you've experienced is the last word about what's possible, the best raw data from which to map things, or the limit of human excellence. Now you know better \'be now you can become the Master of the Matrices of your Mind and choose how you want to texture, quality, and interpret the Events you experience.\par
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+ \b References:\b0\par
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+ Bateson, Gregory. (1972/ 2000). Steps to an ecology of mind. Chicago: The University of Chicago.\par
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+ Hall. L. Michael (2000). {\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://www.neurosemantics.com/Books/MetaStates.htm"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul Meta-States: Managing the higher levels of your mind}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 . Grand Jct. CO: Neuro-Semantics Publications.\par
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+ Hall, L. Michael. (2000). {\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://www.neurosemantics.com/Books/Personal_Mastery.htm"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul Secrets of personal mastery: Advanced techniques for accessing your higher levels of consciousness}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 . Wales, UK: Crown House Publications.\par
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+ Korzybski, Alfred. (1941/1994). Science and sanity: An introduction to non-Aristotelian systems and general semantics, (5th. ed.). Lakeville, CN: International Non-Aristotelian Library Publishing Co.\par
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+ Lakoff, George; Johnson, Mark. (1999). Philosophy in the flesh: The embodied mind and its challenge to western thought. NY: Basic Books.\par
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+ \b Author:\b0\par
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+ L. Michael Hall, Ph.D., cognitive psychologist, international NLP trainer, entrepreneur; prolific author and international training; developer of Meta-States and co-developer of Neuro-Semantics. (P.O. Box 9231; 81501). (970) 523-7877. {\field{\*\fldinst{HYPERLINK "http://www.neurosemantics.com/"}}{\fldrslt{\cf1\ul www.neurosemantics.com}}}\cf0\ulnone\f0\fs24 \par
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+ Mastering Fears-- Part II\line Using NLP and NS\line (Neuro-Semantics)\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100\qc Case Studies\line "Fear of Public Speaking"\line and\line "Agoraphobia"\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.\line With Bobby G. Bodenhamer, D. Min.\par
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+ There are so many patterns in NLP and NS (Neuro-Semantics) for dealing with fear that we found that we could not use all of them when we put the training manual Mastering Your Fears (2000) together. So we picked the best to design the training that Bob is currently doing at Gaston College.\par
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+ Along the line of working with and modeling the subjective experience that goes under the heading of "fear" we found that not only are there a wide-range of experiences that fall under this category, but that there are some experiences that are so-called "fear" that have nothing to do with fear. In such cases, an experience has been anchored to the term "fear," but falsely so. Fear at meta-levels can differ radically from fear at primary levels and can take on some very different properties. Here are some examples.\par
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+ Fear of Public Speaking\par
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+ "I'm still afraid of public speaking. I don't know what didn't work about the 'Phobia Cure,' but it didn't work. I felt better for awhile; but I was still afraid. I guess I need something more powerful than that. Do you have something specifically for public speaking?"\par
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+ The gentleman, a professional in his field, had studied NLP and had become a practitioner. I also knew that he held himself to a high standard and that "walking his talk" was really important to him so that he would not have been the kind to have only run the pattern in a half-baked way or to have excused himself with stupid excuses.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 Tell me, how do you know you're afraid of public speaking.\par
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+ How do I know? Because I get afraid every time I speak in public.\par
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+ Really? And how do you actually know that you're afraid?\par
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+ Well, because I get nervous mainly. And my hands sweat and my heart is beating fast and my stomach feels queasy. That kind of thing.\par
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+ That's all? (I said in a credulous and doubting tonality.) I still don't understand how you know to call that "fear;" that's what I feel when I get "excited."\par
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+ Well, it's really uncomfortable.\par
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+ Yeah? (More incredulity and with a tone of "You've got to do better than that!)\par
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+ Well, there's the nervous energy. I never start out very smoothly, sometimes I even stumble for my words and I nervously move my hands...\par
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+ Yeah? That still sounds like it could be excitement and possibly the lack of thorough training in gesturing. What is there about any of that which has to be labeled "fear?" That's what I want to know.\par
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+ It's not fear? But it feels fearful.\par
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+ That's what I don't understand yet, how do you know it's "fearful?": Do you freeze up and can't talk?\par
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+ Well, no. I always finish the speech.\par
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+ Well, maybe you have the fearful cognitions of wanting to run away? Is that's what's going on? You really don't want to do public speaking?\par
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+ No. I do want to speak in public. It's great for my career, it helps me to influence others and that kind of thing. And I'm actually pretty good at it.\par
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+ Well, maybe you're scared to death of what others' think? Afraid of criticism, afraid of being rejected as a worthless human being? That you'll be disgraced by your incompetence?\par
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+ (Laughing) No, no. It's not that. I do want to make a good impression. That's why I do the extensive preparations that I do.\par
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+ So you're not wetting your pants in fear about messing up and looking like a fool?\par
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+ (Laughing even harder) No. Of course not!\par
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+ Well, Todd, I think we have here a case of a mistaken label. It doesn't sound like fear to me at all. It sounds like the marvelous excitement of really wanting to knock their socks off.\par
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+ But I don't like the feelings that I...\par
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+ That's the problem! (I said interrupting)\par
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+ You mean I've meta-stated myself with a dislike of my nervousness and have falsely mislabeled it "fear?"\par
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+ Exactly.\par
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+ And that would explain why the NLP Phobia Pattern didn't work with me? It wasn't a phobia in the first place?\par
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+ Precisely. You weren't phobic of anything. Did you ever have a traumatic public speaking experience that invited you to set the frame that "Public speaking is dangerous?"\par
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+ No.\par
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+ And your thoughts about public speaking?\par
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+ Well, ah ... that I like it; that it promotes my influence, that it's important in my career, ... and that I don't like being nervous.\par
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+ Ah, the meta-state structure! You "don't like being nervous." You don't get a kick out of feeling and sensing your whole body revving up and getting ready to let them have it!\par
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+ Yes, I guess that's it. I have always thought that "nervousness" meant fear and was a bad thing.\par
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+ Like the first time you had sex. If you felt nervous about it, that had to mean that you were a flop, not really excited, scared of women, that kind of ...\par
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+ (Interrupting me with laughter) I get it. I get it. You made your point.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Todd just had a bad relationship with "nervousness." He didn't like the experience of nervousness and he didn't like the idea or concept of being nervous. For the first, I just coached him into using deep breathing and relaxation to give him the edge on turning the nervousness into managed excitement so that he "had" it rather than it having him (Instant Relaxation, 1998). With the meta-state of dislike of the idea of being nervous because of all the things it had come to mean to him, we reframed its meaning, accessed acceptance and appreciation of his nervousness so that he could "dwell more comfortably in his skin with the fact that nerves sometimes generate somatic energy."\par
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+ I then meta-stated him with several other resources. If you have eyes and ears to detect the meta-levels and meta-states, you can catch frames that I set for him:\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 Todd, since you'll be speaking to a group on Thursday, I want you to use it to see if you can use your managed nervousness and come up with three gestures that you can use to transform it into "excitement." And every time you feel the sensations that you have called "fear," I want you to imagine a resourceful voice saying, 'Not fear, anticipation of how I'm going to knock their socks off!' And as you do that, just experiment with how much nervousness you can translate into excitement knowing that as you do, it is increasing your professional skills as a public speaker.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 When "Fear" is Mis-Labeled\par
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+ We have found that fear is most often mis-labeled, as it was with Todd, because we can so easily confuse another emotion with it-- namely, the emotion of "dislike." Todd disliked a certain set of sensations and had learned or been taught or somewhere picked it up that those sensations mean "fear." Consider some of the things that you say you fear.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 Criticism \line Rejection \line Insult\line Public speaking \line Taking a risk Elevators\line Small places \line Cold calling etc.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Now step back from your frames and wonder, really wonder, "Could I just dislike the sensations, or some facet of the experience, or the idea of it and only be confusing fear for my dislike?"\par
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+ Not being turned on about taking on the dislikes and disapprovals of others ("criticism,' "rejection") strikes me as a pretty normal response. What if, instead of it being a fear, your experience really indicates that you do not particularly like it, not particular drawn to it with total excitement, "Oh, Boy!," or even that you just lack some of the necessary skills to handle that event with grace and dignity.\par
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+ I (MH) worked with a group of agoraphobics a number of years ago. They had (and have) an Agoraphobics Association. I always thought that was kind of paradoxical. They asked me to come out to the leader's house to work with them. Usually, 5 to 7 people would show up. After establishing rapport, I asked,\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 If you're agoraphobic, how are you able to drive here to Ruth's house?\par
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+ Well, we're not as agoraphobic as Ruth. That's why we have to have it here at her house, she can't leave her house at all, but we can leave ours.\par
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+ Right. That makes sense. So there's a rating system in how agoraphobic a person may be.\par
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+ Yeah. Some people are very agoraphobic and some are in the process of getting more afraid and others are in the process of becoming less afraid.\par
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+ So tell me, what are you afraid of specifically? What's the worse thing that will happen to you if you leave your house. Ruth, since you're the most skilled at this ability, or "the worst," what scares the hell out of you so much? (I said that with more of a tone of levity than seriousness.)\par
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+ Well, I don't know... not when you put it that way.\par
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+ Well, I mean with all the car jackers here in Grand Junction, there's got to be something that would be the worst possible thing that you could possibly imagine.\par
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+ Well, I just get uncomfortable. Very uncomfortable. My heart begins to pound, and I sweat and I begin to worry, 'what if I freeze?' and then I just have to pull over and get my breath and head back home.\par
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+ Oh, so you do leave home?\par
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+ Not really. Not anymore. Just if I have to go to the store for some food if my husband can't leave work and do it.\par
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+ Ruth, if you did not have this program inside your head that scared the hell out of you when you left the house, and you had a normal response to leaving home, what would you life be like? What would you be doing with yourself?\par
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+ Well, I used to work. I was a receptionist and ...\par
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+ That's what you'd like to return to do?\par
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+ No, not really. I didn't like that at all.\par
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+ So what would you do?\par
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+ I don't know.\par
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+ Pretend that you do know and just describe what you'd love to be doing.\par
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+ Well, ah... I really don't have anything that I'd like to be doing.\par
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+ Do you like what you're doing now... staying at home and all?\par
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+ Well, yes. I get to do some of the crafts and things that I love to do. ... but it's such a hassle to not be able to go to the Mall or other stores to get supplies.\par
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+ So you just do without?\par
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+ Oh no. Larry picks them up for me.\par
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+ You know, Ruth, it sounds like you have a wonderful life and wonderful lifestyle and that you're not really an agoraphobic at all. You just love staying home, being waited on, and being treated as special for this so-called agoraphobia.\par
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+ (Stunned silence.. . Hurt looks... ) You just don't understand.\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 I left the dialogue there and turned to another. Three years later Ruth wrote a letter and said that she was never more shocked, anger, upset, and hurt than by what I had said to her in front of the group that evening. But that it was all true and she hated to admit it, and that she couldn't admit it at the time. She said she had come to realize that she hid her anger, but would fret and stew every Wednesday and Thursday prior to the meetings. And unknown to me, she complained to the others that I didn't know what I was doing and that we should stop having me come, that I was making her agoraphobia worse.\par
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+ And that went on for several weeks until two of the other persons confronted her by using the same questions. And when they asked the questions, she couldn't complain that they didn't understand and because they were "getting better," they pushed the questions until it became clear that fear was an excuse. That the real issue was a willingness to take on and accept some of the more unpleasant facets of life, to accept distressful feelings as just feelings, and to face the discomfort through building up more resourceful responses.\par
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+ In her letter, Ruth said that the moment came when she decided to stop calling her experience fear and agoraphobia.\par
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+ \pard\li360\ri360\sb100\sa100 "Once I dropped those labels, everything was strange for awhile. I kept saying to myself, 'What do I call this?' And eventually I decided to call it, 'being out of my Comfort Zone,' and as I decided that was okay, then I began asking the questions that you zapped me with, 'What do I really want?'"\par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Thereafter she began making plans, and re-orienting the focus of her life. She shifted it from what she didn't want, to what she did want. She began driving again. She found a job that she really enjoyed, and she re-entered the life "of the normals" as she expressed it.\par
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+ This doesn't mean that all agoraphobics have this same experience or structure, but provides one example of how one person (actually several) mis-labeled their experience, too comfort in the label, and then began building their lives and identities around the label.\par
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+ When "Fear" Goes Meta\par
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+ Feeling afraid of a specific event, person, situation, or external referent in our world provides us the informational value and signal that all emotions provide. This makes them useful. They then become feedback to us about the relationship between our model of the world and our experience of the world. The emotion as such tells us that we need to adjust one or the other, or both. And the emotional also provides us the energy to make some adjustment.\par
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+ However, when we react to any of our reactions of thought or emotion with fear and begin to fear ourselves, our states, our emotions, our thoughts, etc., when we begin to dread and feel apprehension about a meaning, an idea, a concept, what we may become, what we may find, etc., then the "fear" becomes something other than primary level fear. Now it becomes a taboo against ourselves, a corroding and weakening of ego strength so that we make ourselves an enemy to reality, to human experience, to our fallibilities, to ideas, etc. This can lead to repression, psychosomatic problems, unsanity, weakening of our personal power, etc.\par
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+ Such "fear" puts us at odds with ourselves. In constructing such "fear of self," this can take so many forms: fear of our sexuality, fear of our assertiveness, fear of our passions, fear of being a fallible human being, fear of being vulnerable, fear of sadness, fear of excitement, fear of the idea of getting fat, fear of the idea of being rejected, etc.\par
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+ And, when we begin to bring fear against ourselves and against our ideas, feelings, awarenesses, etc., this seems to start an ongoing process that can, and often does, worsen with time. It's a basic meta-stating process in that we create it so simply. We reflect back onto ourselves and "fear" an experience and especially some idea of what that means. Consider that, we fear what something means. Then, because "fear" makes us freeze, fight, and/or flee-- we then experiences those reactions to ourselves, the feeling, the idea, etc.\par
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+ Yet this kind of "fear" (if we can even call it that at this level) begins a corroding and destructive process. In Meta-States trainings, as well as the basic books, Meta-States and Dragon Slaying, we constantly emphasize that mostly if we bring negative thoughts and feelings against ourselves we create "dragon like states" so that we experience a self-created self-conflict.\par
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+ This kind of "fear" does not respond well to the NLP Phobia Cure. Why? Because it is not a fear of an external referent. It is rather a "fear" (dread, dislike, upset, stress, anger etc.) of what something means, an idea, our experience, etc. For this kind of so-called "fear," we need reframing. We need to set a new frame (i.e., meta-state ourselves) with some resource that creates a higher level structure that allows us to face, accept, appreciate, own, etc. the idea, experience, state, or whatever.\par
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+ That's why so-called "paradoxical" things work so well here.\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 "Try really hard to freak out when I say this word, mention this idea, etc." \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}"I want you to fully embrace and welcome your fear ... as you do, listen to it and notice what informational value it has for you. What does it say?" \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}"As you look with the eyes of appreciation at that idea or feeling that you've been afraid of, just for a moment, look beyond the immediate things it does and look for its higher values and intentions. How does it seek to serve you?" \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 Summary\par
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+ All fear is not the same. This is the nature and wonder and marvel of meta-levels. This is the value of understanding what Korzybski called "multiordinality." Experiencing love at the primary level differs from loving our love. We call that "infatuation." And loving our infatuation then becomes "romanticism" or something. At each higher level, the nature, feel, and experience of the same emotion transforms into something different. So with fear. At each level it transforms itself.\par
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+ Knowing that, always begin by asking the referent question:\par
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+ \pard{\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}{\*\pn\pnlvlblt\pnf2\pnindent360{\pntxtb\'B7}}\fi-360\li720\sb100\sa100 What are you afraid of? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}Is the referent of your fear out there in the world or a state, experience, idea, etc.? \par
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+ {\pntext\f2\'B7\tab}At what level is this fear? Is it one level up, two, three, etc.? \par
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+ \pard\sb100\sa100 References\par
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+ Bodenhamer, Bobby; Hall, Michael. (2000). Mastering your fears. Spiral manuscript of training manual. Grand Jct. CO: Neuro-Semantics Publications.\par
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+ Hall, L. Michael (2000, second edition). Meta-States: Mastering the higher levels of mind, Grand Jct. CO: Neuro-Semantics Publications.\par
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+ Hall, L. Michael; Bodenhamer, Bobby (1999). The structure of excellence: Unmasking the meta-levels of submodalities. Grand Jct. CO: E.T. Publications.\par
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+ Leder, Debra; Hall, L. Michael. (1998). Instant relaxation. Wales, UK: Crown House Publications.\par
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